Tips for Parents and Caregivers

TIPS FOR PARENTS AND CAREGIVERS

Tips for Parents
and Caregivers

Use the Can-Do Kids books to become your child’s
best advocate.

Stress-Free Strategies for Starting the Hardest of Conversations on Body Boundaries, Self-Regulation, and Life Values.

Use the Can-Do Kids books to
become your child’s best advocate.

Stress-Free Strategies for Starting the Hardest of Conversations on Body Boundaries, Self-Regulation, and Life Values.

The poem at the beginning of the book, written in first person with empowering statements, makes the appropriate behavior easy to remember for young readers. Created with TBRI® trained professional counselors and therapist, the sections at the end of each book will coach parents how to approach these difficult subjects with a deeper understanding of behavior, along with a list of leading questions for parent and child to engage in solution-focused practices.

You want your child to know and practice appropriate body boundaries, self-regulation, and life values, but none of these behaviors are natural, and I understand you don’t know how to start, what to say, or how to say it. That’s why I created the Can-Do Kids books. These brain-based books provide an easy, stress free way to start the hardest of conversations and provide a way for you to create an atmosphere of felt safety.

Current statistics (Department of Justice NSOPW and National Child Traumatic Stress Network) are one in four girls and one in six boys will be abused by the time they are eighteen. Absolutely you don’t want your child to be a victim of sexual abuse, but someone will talk to your child about sex and it’s your choice whether it’s you or not. You probably haven’t talked to your child about body boundaries and sexual abuse prevention because you are afraid of saying the wrong thing, you don’t have all the answers, afraid of encouraging a behavior, or well…it’s just a scary topic. You can relax because it doesn’t have to be. Today is the day to start the ongoing conversation and with My Body’s Mine you can do it with confidence and be stress-free.

“See the need behind the behavior,” TBRI® mantra.

Self-regulation is a first step, and the goal is making sure you are self-regulated, so you can be coregulated with your child.

In I Can Do That! are strategies helping you better understand and then how to appropriately handle your child’s behavior. Remember: Your child is not his or her behavior. Their acting out may appear without cause but often there is underlying chronic stress initiating the unwanted behavior. “Give your child permission to process feelings,” Dr. Karyn Purvis. By learning their triggers, you can be proactive in heading off dysregulation, With the fun strategies and activities listed in the book, learn how you and your child can create peace in the home and on outings.

Self-regulation is a first step, and the goal is making sure you are self-regulated, so you can be coregulated with your child.

“Children do well when they can” ~Ross Greene. And for them to do well, we need to help them learn expected behaviors. Relationships are key in life. How we relate to ourselves and to others determines our friendships and interactions with others. When you understand and practice life values you engage in deeper and more meaningful relationships. And this understanding of how to relate to others starts in childhood, with the caregivers as the first role models. My Actions Matter provides a process to not only learn life values, speak with respect, listen and obey, cause no hurts, cooperate and compromise to name a few, but it provides scripts for the caregiver to repeat so you’ll know exactly what to say when an unwanted behavior occurs. When children know not only what behavior is expected of them, but how to achieve that behavior, it’s a win-win for everyone.

Armed with the right tools you can begin today discussing body boundaries, assist your child (and yourself) with self-regulation, and help them learn life values so they can create meaningful relationships. When you do this, you are giving your child a priceless gift. You’re giving them roots and wings – a foundation they can take out into the world to lead a meaningful and successful life.